Emily Ridout on Astroyoga

I got a chance to chat with Emily Ridout who is a yogi, and astrologist and folklorist. I had no idea what astroyoga was or what it did. I love when I get to connect with cool and interesting people through social media and learn about new things! Our conversation covered a lot of ground and I hope you enjoy listening to us and we enjoyed talking to each other!

Find Emily’s website here https://www.emilyridout.com/

Or look to connect with her on Instagram Emily Ridout Astroyoga

Ohm In The Home Returns!

I sat down with my friend Stacey of Ohm In The Home. It’s always a pleasure to sit in her enchanted studio, Valhalla. Stacey has come on the podcast a handful of times now and I always love the opportunity for a great conversation. She is a truly gifted intuitive healer and her wisdom and insightful thoughts on life and how we can navigate it by being self aware and trusting our gut, (and how to get to the point where you know you can trust yourself to know best!), sage advice for all of us living in these crazy times.

You can find Stacey on Instagram and Facebook under Ohm In The Home. See her at the Montauk Salt Cave in the Huntington location or call her for a reading, a healing session or a phone session.

Ohm In The Home, where it all begins!

2018 A Year In Review with Lisa Fox

2018 brought a lot of new and noteworthy podcasts to You Be You & I’ll Be Me. I sat down with my friend , Lisa Fox, who has come on the podcast a few times before. I love chatting with Lisa. She is an entertaining, warm and funny person and an all around excellent guest on the podcast.

Lisa had her own show on the internet for a few years, which makes her an outstanding person to have on and to talk to. Our conversations flow very easily and we always have a great time. She is one of those women who is always rooting for you. We are both inspired by people who want to try something new, put themselves “out there” and just go for it. Why not? What have you got to lose?

Spiritualist Carolyn Myss, while addressing a group of people who were deciding to take the plunge into “What’s Next” once said, look at the person next to you and just start laughing. The bewildered group did as she asked and turned to each other and started laughing. When they finally quieted down she said, “There. They scariest thing you could ever imagine just happened. Someone just laughed in your face. Did you die? Are you still here? Good, now you know, who cares.” (I paraphrase but essentially, that’s how it went down.)

Entrepreneur, Gary Vaynerchuk, repeatedly says on his Instagram, the only way to succeed as an entrepreneur, (or in life), is to stop caring what other people think and do your thing. It’s not about likes, it’s about content. Who are you doing this for and what are your motives? Self awareness, extreme self honesty are your key assets in succeeding in whatever you do. Authenticity resonates.

I talk to people who are passionate about what they do. Who have gone through things in life that have taught them something that they want to pass on so others can hear them and know, either, I can do that too. Or yes, I feel or have felt that way. We have more in common than you think.

I started this as an exercise in finding our commonality. We are more alike at our core than we are different. We just get easily distracted with the stuff that just doesn’t matter. We all want our family to thrive and be happy. We all want good health. I could go on and on on the list that we can all agree on. I choose to focus on those things.

So thanks for coming on this ride with me. I love giving people a voice to be heard. Everyone has a story to tell. SO what’s yours?

Merry Christmas

Happy New Year

Be you, Have fun, Get it done.

Peace

Love,

Jen

Let's Talk About Grief

Grief never ends but it changes, it’s a passage, not a place you stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness but the price we pay for love.

The holidays are not always an easy time for everyone. There are people all around us for whom the holidays are a painful reminder of loved ones no longer with us.

I had an opportunity to sit down with an amazing group of very strong women who have experienced profound loss and were brave enough to sit down and talk about it in hopes that others who are either experiencing loss of their own or are supporting loved ones during times that no one wants to talk or think about, will know they are not alone.

The holidays are a hard time for a lot of people, but especially those who have experienced profound loss. It’s ok to say their name and talk about loved ones are no longer with us. Tell the story, reach out, ask are you ok? Even when you know the answer is going to be, no, not at all.

If you are someone going through the holidays, or anytime, terribly sad over the loss of a loved one feel free to reach out to me and I will connect you with these amazing ladies who unfortunately understand exactly where you are coming from.

One Love, God Bless

Live Your Cor

Peace

One Love God Bless Part Two

Stop pointing fingers, and start reaching out your hand.

Sat down with Christy and Corinne from the episode, One Love, God Bless, we talked about anxiety and depression in kids and what we can do for them. Always love sitting down with these insightful and real women. Take a listen and if someone in your life needs help, ask them, do you need help? And be persistent. You know when someone needs help, don’t be afraid to say it out loud because the alternative is much worse.

The National Suicide Hotline is 1-800-273-8255. Please call or reach out to me and I will get you in touch with the real deal, these amazing ladies. We are all in this together. Help each other out.

Peace.

You Be You & I’ll Be Me

The Empty Nest Handbook

Your Love Is Your Life

Your love is what you will.

Your will governs your thoughts.

Your thoughts result in actions.

Your actions, what you do, is your life.

Love well, be well.

Love good, be good.

-Rob Simons

In the dictionary, empty nest syndrome is described as sadness or emotional distress affecting parents whose children have grown up and left home. Well, I suppose that’s true, but it can simultaneously be an opportunity and an exciting time of your life.

Today I chatted with Jane Simons who created an instagram account chronicling her life post empty nest. When I spoke with her she was on day 398! We talk about what’s next when the kids leave home? Reconnecting with yourself, losing a parent, reconnecting with your spouse or significant other and much more.

If you have been an empty nester for years, or you’re new to it or you’re anticipating it someday soon, I urge you to follow The Empty Nest Handbook on instagram. The posts are authentic and funny and sometimes sad but always thoughtful and insightful. One of my recent particular faves was day 386, where Jane lists the differences between she and her husband. It made me laugh out loud for real.

Follow along, make the tribe bigger. We get through the hard stuff by leaning on and learning from each other. We are all in this together after all.

Peace!

Ohm In The Home, Musings and Meditation

Don’t listen to other people. In your heart of hearts, you know what’s best for you. -Stevi

Another episode with Stacey from Ohm In the Home. I always love connecting with this sister. She is for you! I highly recommend connecting with her for her spiritual guidance, her intuitive insight or even just to help you reconnect to yourself. Her gifts are abundant and you will leave her feeling better than when you got there.

In this episode we talk about the end of summer and the coming Harvest Moon, loving yourself and life in general. At the end Stacey leads us in a guided meditation to help jump start your new practice or take a minute to try something new.

Follow Stacey on Facebook and Instagram at Ohm In The Home

or give her a call for a phone or in studio session. (516)-906-3155

Peace

Autism and Miracles

A dream doesn’t become reality through magic, it takes sweat, determination and hard work.

-Colin Powell.

A few weeks ago I was invited to attend a mass at the home of some friends of mine that were gathering our community together to first and foremost, come together to pray collectively, (that works!), for members of their family The McAndrews, who were raising awareness as well as funds for their young son Peter.

Peter was injured after he received the MMR vaccine at 18 months old. Essentially, Peter went from a thriving, communicative, happy boy, to a non verbal, shell of his former self in a matter of weeks.

I sat down with Peter’s mother, Suzanne McAndrews, and she told me the story of their journey. Not only do I urge you to listen to her story that is filled with hope for any family who has a child with Autism. I also urge you to check out their Go Fund Me page at, https://www.gofundme.com/ny4xw-be-the-miracle

Read her family’s whole story there. See the great work she is doing with the Autism Treatment Center and the Son Rise method. https://www.autismtreatmentcenter.org/

Together she and her family, (and with the help of some miracle workers disguised as amazing teachers), have brought Peter back to being verbal and interacting and he’s making leaps and bounds every single day using the Son Rise method. Unfortunately a lot of what he needs isn’t recognized by insurance and has to come from out of pocket. (Why would insurance companies cover holistic, instinctual methods that clearly work? Why do doctors insist vaccines don’t have repercussions sometimes?)

Suzanne’s family’s focus is Peter, but she is paying it forward by sharing the information she and her family work so hard day in and day out to help their son. If you are going through this, she wants you to know this information and to know you are not alone. Suzanne is a warm and inspiring speaker and I hope you listen to her story.

Be The Miracle!

Peace.

Ohm In The Home Is Back!

Grey skies are gonna clear up!

I love when I get a chance to talk to Stacey Gunnard from Ohm in the Home. Her insight, humor and intuition is a gift and she brings it!!

We sat down and talked about life, anxiety, feeling the feels and so much more. Stacey does healing energy work and intuitive readings as well as leads meditations at her home studio in East Patchogue called Val Halla. She also does phone readings and her reading for me the first time we met was spot on.

I was feeling anxious the morning we met for some reason and as soon as she opened the door, she said so what's wrong? Before I even opened my mouth. We had a great conversation that I invite you to listen to. Give Stacey a call for your own appointment/reading at 516-906-3155

Peace!

End Human Trafficking, One Candle at a Time

I believe that if we can teach little girls to dream that they will be a force that changes the world. But I believe more than that. If we can teach broken women to dream like little girls again, it will be a force the world has yet to see. -Amber Runyon

I got a chance to sit down with the founder and CEO of Eleventh Candle Company, Amber Runyon. Her life's work is a social enterprise in Columbus, Ohio. As taken right from the mission statement, Partnering with Legacy to redeem, restore, empower and equip those vulnerable to human trafficking abuse, exploitation and addiction.

Amber and her crew help once trafficked women in Columbus, Ohio by employing them in her candle company and the proceeds from that work go to supporting orphaned children in a village in Ethiopia. As she says in the podcast, they are looking to make true and sustainable change so although they may help fewer people it's in a really real way.

You can follow Eleventh Candle Co. on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter. You can make a difference by purchasing a candle from Eleventh Candle Co.

      peace

 

John Mabry and the Real Cause of Addiction

I got a chance to have a conversation with John Mabry, about the real cause of addiction. He bravely tells his personal story about struggling with addiction, depression and PTSD for over a decade following a fatal car accident that subsequently resulted in the loss of his leg. Things became significantly worse for John after the loss of his brother from drug overdose.

As John says, he went from attending parties at the playboy mansion to living in a trailer in Tennessee with a roommate named Beaver. He tells his story honestly and with humor.

Today John is a national advocate for recovery living in Nashville, TN with his wife and their three children. John hosts a podcast called High Sobriety for Addiction Campuses. You can follow John on Instagram and Twitter @Johnclintmabry and if you or a loved one needs help that is over your pay grade check out https://www.addictioncampuses.com/

 

Great talk! Thanks John!

Be you, have fun, get it done.

Keynote Address

 

I looked at the National Honor Society website while I was preparing for this talk I’m giving today. I know what the honor society is of course, but I must admit, in school it always seemed out of reach for me. As a matter of fact I hope someone takes my picture addressing you guys because I would love to send it to some former teachers of mine along with the caption, #irony. On the website, I saw important words like leadership, and service and #futureready. More on all of these in a bit.

 

I grew up in a different world than the one you guys are growing up in. Everything you can imagine was different then. From the way teachers taught and parents parented and what was considered socially acceptable behavior between men and women to what was considered to taboo to talk to your neighbors about including religion and politics.

 

 

You guys are growing up in a time where we our experiencing the biggest cultural shift we have ever known. Everyone over 35 has no idea what it’s like to grow up during these times. And you guys have no idea what it was like to grow up in any other environment other than here and now. In a time that the country seems so divided, so much so, it seems sometimes that we can’t figure out a way to come together, I have great faith in your generation, that you will be the future leaders who will be the ones to teach the generations that preceded you, that it can and will be done. It will only be done with things like empathy, and kindness, and respect for people who may or may not think the way you think or believe in what you believe in. It’s going to take love.

 

So how my podcast, You Be You & I’ll Be Me came to fruition. Let me preface this with the fact that although this story takes place around the election, it is not political. I care about story, humans, emotions and heart. I don’t care what political party you identify with so exhale adults! I just didn’t want you to get nervous once you heard me get started and think, uhoh, where is she going with this?? Get the hook!

 I am a mom and my husband and I have four children. The youngest of whom is our daughter Kelly. Kelly is a bit of a wild card and likes to buck the system any time she can. That’s a nice way of saying she can be difficult, but we love her anyway. So it was not completely surprising when she informed her father and I her senior year of High School that she was going to only apply to 1 school, The Savannah College of Art and Design in Savannah, Georgia. I said, how about a safety school just in case so we have a back up plan? She said I already have a back up plan. We braced ourselves for what she was about to say as she continued on. I plan on driving across country and living in California for a year at which time, I will go to Santa Barbara Community College and eventually transfer to UCSB. I already have a job lined up, Kelly had worked throughout High School at a store in town that girls love and parents hate called LF and she had already set up a conference call and spoken to management in their California office about working at the store in Santa Barbara. Is that so?  We said. We have learned to pick our battles with this kid so we thought instead of dismissing her with an absolutely not, we would bide our time and see how things played out.

When she heard a few months later that she had gotten in to her one and only school of choice, I thought, great, that’s settled. But by then Kelly had other plans. She said, Just hear me out. Well this should be good, we thought.  And she proceeded to regale us with her plan C. Defer for a semester and still go to Santa Barbara and work at LF and then go to SCAD in the spring. We said, we don’t really think that’s a great idea but you are 18 years old and I suppose that means you can make your own decisions but here’s the catch. If you take a semester off, you are going out there with no help from us, other than your cell phone that we will continue to pay for so we can keep in touch with you. Other than that, if you’re not in school, you are working full time and paying your own bills, including rent, groceries, gas, everything will be on you. When you get to school in the spring you go back to getting the benefits that your brother and sisters got when they were in school. Meal plan, dorm room, normal 18 year-old college student stuff. She said, fine I don’t want you to pay for anything. We said, fine we won’t. So that stubborn little baby of the family packed up her car and away she went to drive across country to live in Santa Barbara.

 

Suddenly for the first time in over 25 years, my husband and I found our selves empty nesters, which is a term people use referring to couples who no longer have children living at home in the nest.

We were like a kid who gets to the carnival and is so excited that he can’t figure out what to do first. Like so many here on the east end of Long Island, our work is seasonal so we had some down time. We decided that we would take a trip and drive across country, taking our time and seeing as much of the United States as we could before landing in California and seeing how that little Kelly girl was holding up.

We started mid October in the year 2016. We drove through the Blue Ridge Mountains, onto Nashville and Memphis. Little Rock, Arkansas, Oklahoma City, Oklahoma, Put our heads on a pillow in Amarillo, Texas. Drove route 66 to Tucumcari, New Mexico, stopped at the Grand Canyon to watch the sunrise over one of the wonders of the world. Spent 24 hours in Las Vegas, Nevada, that was plenty and finally got to LA and eventually Santa Barbara. We made it to California in a few weeks and it was the most eye opening and interesting trips I had ever been on in my life, at such an incredible time in our nations history.

We talked to locals and fellow travelers everywhere we went. Listened to Country Music in Nashville. Had a fried peanut butter and banana sandwich in Memphis. Drove through the craziest hail storm I had ever seen in Oklahoma.

 We saw amazing things and weird things and incredibly sad things. We watched families eat breakfast together on Sunday mornings in diners along the way.

 In Texas I saw this adorable family dressed like cowboys, because they were cowboys! The two little tiny cowboys were probably 6 or 7 years old and they jumped up on a stool at a restaurant that had a shooting game with what looked like pretty authentic rifles in the lobby to have target practice while you wait. I watched in amazement as they tilted their cowboy hats back and held their rifles and took aim at their moving targets. I raised my phone up to take their picture when my husband said, Uh what are you doing? Look at these tiny cowboys! He said, ok well, they are actually real children who belong to that bigger cowboy over there who probably wouldn’t appreciate a stranger taking his kids picture for your instagram account. Oh, you have a point.

 

In Tucumcari, I watched the biggest hugest man I had ever seen. He walked in the restaurant we were having dinner in and asked the young waitress by name for a table. She sat him at a table for four and a minute later his wife, son and daughter sat down. They were all chatting and smiling and laughing and when the food came this gentle giant, that looked like he could be an intimidating dude, grabbed his family by the hands and they bowed their heads and prayed grace before they ate.

 

We passed through long stretches of highway, some really beautiful and some with the most poverty stricken shacks on the side of the road where the only thing in town were factories, gas stations and maybe a slaughter house where I imagined generations of families worked because, that’s all there was.

I saw so many beautiful things the mountains, the desert, the different cities and towns along the way, the grand canyon, I even stood on a corner in Winslow, Arizona, which you probably don’t get the reference but to me, it was pretty cool. I also saw so many things that could only be described as bleak and heartbreaking. Out the window I saw children playing in yards of homes that I didn’t know could exist in the same country I lived in. And every time we chatted up a local or a fellow traveler news of the coming election was on everyone’s mind. One man in Texas said, I just don’t want to live like this anymore and I can’t make a better life for my family.

 

What I learned was internet has connected us all but on the surface we don’t seem to have much in common with each other. What is “normal” for us here on the east end of Long Island, may as well be living on a different planet for a kid going to school in the middle of what we would consider nowhere, but what they consider their home.

When we got to California the climate was one of fear, anger and frustration,

And that’s when I noticed we, as a country, had completely stopped listening to each other and started hating each other.

For the last 3 weeks I had watched families who lived completely different lives than the way my family lived. Yet, what we all had in common was love. We all love our family and our friends. We all want everyone to be as happy as possible and healthy and have opportunities to do things and go places and thrive. That is something we all want. No one is better than anyone else. We are all human beings and we all deserve love.

 

So I decided to start a podcast that told stories we could all agree on. You Be You & I’ll Be Me, is my way of saying, you may not agree with what I believe and I may not agree with what you believe and that’s ok. Let’s keep the big picture in focus. We are all human beings, born in one of the most exciting times in history. Let’s celebrate the fact that the cartoon The Jetson’s was pretty much spot on, just as I always hoped.

 

 So on my podcast, sometimes I have my kids on and we talk about things like self-esteem, and putting yourself out there and following your dreams. I have my husband on and we talk about being your authentic self. I’ve learned so much from interacting with different people of all ages and all walks of life. I recently had on a mother and sisters of a man who died from suicide. I learned that you say died or death from suicide and not committed suicide because that makes it seem like they committed a crime when really all they did was put an end to their pain and suffering because they thought everyone would be better off with out them.

I have people on who are passionate about what they do. When you hear someone talking about something they truly believe in you can see the fire in their eyes and feel the passion that they feel. I am a story teller and I learn best from someone telling me a story. So I can really feel their emotions and their “why”. The best part of the Olympics for me are the back stories they tell about the athletes in between events. And it’s never and Johnny didn’t have to sacrifice a thing to win this gold. He’s always been good at everything so it’s no surprise! No, never! It’s always “and Johnny had to over come one terrible hardship thing after the next to get here, but he stayed dedicated.” But then there is always the worst part when they throw in, “then two days before he came to the games, Johnny’s  dear old grandmother died but her last wish was for him to bring back the gold.”  So Johnny does his event and we are all watching and we are invested because now we all know his story, and he’s at the finish line and he won and he’s looking up crying and since we know the story, we are all crying as a nation with him “saying he did it for his grandma” And we are bonded for life. Because we shared something personal that we can all relate to.

The most unlikely people can find commonality if they want to. And just as easy you can find a million ways we are divided if we want to. There is a quote that goes, If you look for the bad you will find it. If you look for the good, you will find it. We always have a choice between the two realities; the positive and the negative. The reality we invest our energy in is the one in which we exist.

 

By the way, if you are wondering whatever happened to Kelly. She did work at LF in Santa Barbara. And while she thought she made plenty of money while she worked there in High School, she quickly learned that in order to make enough money to pay her rent AND eat food she had to work herself to the bone with out days off for weeks on end. I would check in on her and ask how she was doing and she would say, I’m so hungry. Or I’m so tired I’m going to cry. But sometimes being a good parent is not giving in. Believe me all we want is for you guys to be happy. We would lay down our lives for you and give you the shirt off our backs. But sometimes being a good parent is allowing you to learn the hard lessons by not swooping in and saving the day. It’s hard for most parents to watch you go through hard times. But that is when you learn the most about yourself. That’s when you get an opportunity to make yourself proud because no one helped you, you did it all on your own. So sure enough because we didn’t make it comfortable for Kelly, when the time came, she left California in the rearview mirror and is living her dream of being an art student in Savannah.

 

 

 

Life is not easy, and to us over 35ers, 45ers, 55ers, we are afraid for you because we don’t understand the world you are growing up in. We think, thank you lord that there was no social media when we were navigating the waters of the uncharted territory of middle school and high school. We worry about your feelings getting hurt. Sure our feelings got hurt everyday but it ended at 3 o’clock when we went home and regrouped with our families and now you guys have to live it constantly. We worry about your mental health. But this life is all you know, so even though it seems like something we couldn’t handle, that doesn’t mean it’s something you can’t handle. If it gets to be to much, and sometimes it will, be brave enough and bold enough to take a break. Unplug, learn to be alone with just your thoughts and not your phone. Ask for help if you need it, because we know, you are doing your best but sometimes you need someone to throw you a line. Please ask for help when you need it.  A friend in need is a friend in deed. You are leaders, leaders see the big picture. Notice the kid who could use a friend like you. We have to take care of each other, put your hand out to them to and tell them, tell them they are not alone.

 

It’s hard to be yourself when you are at a stage in life where everyone wants to be included and fit in and be just like each other. I don’t know why we do this when really we should be practicing self-awareness and being who we really are as individuals all along. Because I promise you, it’s the people that think differently than everyone else does, who aren’t afraid to march to their own tune, who speak out and stand up and stand out. Those are the true leaders and the ones that make a difference in this life. Confident people support, encourage and inspire others to be their best selves. If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more and do more, you’re a leader. And there is enough greatness to go around. If someone is better than you at something, don’t be jealous, work harder! And say to them, you are crushing this, want to help me get better? There are no excuses. Excuses are you not being honest with yourself. Practice responsibility, accountability and have extreme ownership of yourself. Total honesty is not easy. This is where you have to admit you maybe aren’t so great at something. Just own it, no one is perfect at everything. And every single one of us has a something about them that could use work. We also all have different strengths and things we are really good at. Start noticing what comes naturally to you, these are your gifts. No one shows a bird how to build a nest or a spider how to make a web. They are instincts and you should always use yours.

 

Be resilient, life is hard and every one of us gets brought to our knees at some points in life. Sometimes several times. Like Johnny who won the gold because he never gave up. My point is you’re going to get knocked down but it’s how quick that you get back up and keep at it that matters the most. Don’t wallow in it, or ok, wallow for a minute because you’re a human being with feelings not a robot. And then get back after it, until you get it or maybe it will take you down another path that actually is a better one for you to be on. Just keep trying.

 

 

Being a part of NJHS is not just about getting good grades and having leadership qualities, although those are two outstanding things to be and have. I have to say the most important quality we each possess is the ability to be of service for someone else. And service can be anything at all. A friend of mine is a former lacrosse player so he and his sons started a charity called Operation Baggataway, which collects lacrosse equipment and sends it over seas to the troops because he heard down time is usually really boring and makes their time away from home seem ten times longer.

So it doesn’t have to be something that you have no interest in. Then you’re not being your authentic self and you won’t receive the gift of true joy you get when you help someone in a profound and meaningful way.

 

And sorry to the parents if you already had your child all set up to clean out the church basement this summer and they throw, I’m not being authentic to myself if I do this, at you. Also kids, sometimes you have to do things you don’t want to do.

 

As you mature in life I urge you to never stop questioning why? Respectfully debate people with whom you disagree. But remember, everyone has a back story that got them to where they are, ask them what it is so you can understand where they are coming from and tell them yours so they can understand you better. You may change someone’s mind or they may change yours or none of the above but keep your mind open and never stop wondering. Plot and plan but be flexible and fluid. The best things in life are usually the ones you didn’t plan on or expect! Let life unfold and please don’t be to hard on yourself. You are doing your best, and that is perfect. Sometimes life involves a little suffering. That’s when you know you are growing as a person. Those are the character building times where you get another opportunity to make yourself proud. You can get through anything, you got this.

 

Say yes to things that challenge you to go out of your comfort zone. Everyone is scared to do this, but if it’s not scary, you’re not being brave. I have faith in you that you will be the agents of change and you will be #futureready by being kind to one another and by leading by example that we are more alike than we think and that we are all in this together so we may as well smarten up and start paying attention to what is really important.

So keep doing the great work, you’re on a great path and I hope you all keep on it.

 

 

And I will end the way I end all my podcasts. If you like what you heard today, please go to itunes and leave a review. No I’m just kidding. I say work hard, be nice, have fun, laugh, peace.

 

 

Living with ALS

This week I got to sit with my daughter Beth to discuss her short documentary she filmed, produced, edited and everything else that goes into making a short film, entitled, Living with ALS. A horrible disease that our family is unfortunately all to familiar with.

Beth did an incredible job both on her doc and on the podcast. She learned a lot through this process not just about film making but about the disease itself. It's a heavy topic but in the end she made me laugh, like she always does. Follow Beth Kessenich on Instagram and You Tube for more of her work.

 

Hamptons Wellness Week

Wellness is a collection of Paths: Knowledge and Action

I got a chance to sit down and chat with Kiley and Anastasia, the co-founders of Hamptons Wellness Week.

These two east enders hit it off when they met at a winery years ago and put their heads together to see how they could help network the people who live and visit the east end of Long Island with all the great resources we have for living healthier, more balanced lives.

You can find out more on their website

http://www.hamptonswellnessweek.com/

Or look for them on Facebook and Instagram.

You can also get in touch with Kiley for one on one Nutrition Counseling

onehealthyhamptons.com/

Or look for her on Instagram as well.

Their event starts June 2 9-1, with a kick off that is free to the public at Topping Rose House in beautiful Bridgehampton, they just ask that you register so they know you are coming!

Culminating with the first annual farmers wellness market at Topping Rose House June 9th. Hope to see you there!

One Love, God Bless

No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk this path. –Buddha

 

I sat down for a very emotional talk with Carol Thorne Van Hoesen, Corrine Van Hoesen, and Christy Van Hoesen Salerno about their beloved son and brother Scott who they lost to death by suicide four years ago.

They tell their story of how Scott, who was a sweet, kind, sensitive and troubled man who ultimately felt that everyone would be better off if he wasn’t here anymore. Everyone loved Scott and thought he was the greatest guy ever, unfortunately Scott was the only one who didn’t understand how much he meant to the world.

This family has been through a lot and have educated themselves about suicide and wanted to talk about Scott, his issues and what people can do to help a loved one who has thoughts of suicide and help families who have to deal with post suicide of a loved one.

They are a tight group and the love they have for each other is apparent. They are navigating the before and after that day with grace.

 If you or anyone you know is struggling with these thoughts they are here for you. Reach out to them, they want to help you. I love this family, we worked at their Brother/Uncles bar back in the day and I often say if it weren’t for this family I wouldn’t have my family. Scott’s legacy lives on with his 3 beautiful children and his nieces and nephews, sisters, cousins and everyone who knew him.

One Love, God Bless. Miss you Scott, You never knew how loved you were. But you do now.

 

Effortless Everyday Style

Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself. -Coco Chanel

I got a chance to sit down with my friends Jen Sattler of Effortless Everyday Style, Lisa Fox, a podcast fan fave and Danielle MacDonald, to chat about style, fashion and how ultimately being your authentic self is what is truly beautiful.

Jen's business, Effortless Everyday Style, shows women how you don't have to spend a fortune to look stylish and feel beautiful. And let's face it, when you look good and feel good in what you are wearing, there is a confidence and grace about you that makes you feel better! And everyone has room to feel a little bit better about themselves. When you look good, you feel good and with Jen's advice and knowledge, darling, you could look mahvelous. (say it like Billy Crystal from Fernando's Hideaway).

The ladies and I chat about where to find vintage clothing, how to get rid of the old and only keep what brings you joy and wearing only what you love. Most importantly, we talk about being true to yourself, being brave enough to put yourself out there and the importance of just doing your thing without worrying about who is watching, or listening!). It's women supporting other women and I LOVE that.

Jen has brilliant style and great tips and you can follow her on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter and check out her website and style blog at http://www.effortlesseverydaystyle.com/

#nextbigthing

Peace

Ohm In The Home

Through the mighty powers of Instagram I was recently introduced to Stacey Gunnard of Ohm In The Home, located in Sayville, NY on Long Island. Stacey is a gifted psychic, (straight away she said, so you've been with your husband since birth? uh, yup, pretty much!) She is also a character, which I am convinced the world needs more of. Her warm and hilarious, larger than life personality makes sitting down to do a reading with her as entertaining and fun as it is insightful and spot on.

Stacey is a self proclaimed, heart farmer. She wants to help you give and receive all the love you deserve, all the love that is your birthright.

Her shop in Sayville is located just off Main St on Candee Avenue. There you can find everything from white sage and incense, to jewelry and apparel. Her signature logo is a design she created of a heart with two hands, giving and receiving love. Recycled love is a term she came up with after realizing her calling was to help people find self love.

I have said before, having this podcast has enabled me to meet and interact with the coolest people and have the most amazing experiences. Check Stacey out at her shop, on Instagram or Facebook. Or you can call her  and she can do a reading for you right over the phone. Take a listen to hear what she has to say on how to love yourself more today! As Stacey would say, Shanti, Shalom.

Stacey Gunnard 631-589-3044 or 516-906-3155

http://ohminthehome.com/

On Instagram and Facebook @ohminthehome

#theotheroneaboutselfesteem

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. -Marianne Williamson.

 

I went to give a talk to a group of high school students through the HUGS foundation, also known as Long Island Teen Institute on Shelter Island last week. The kids were awesome and I was honored to get to tell my story about self esteem to them. Listen to this podcast to hear the talk and if you are looking for a charity or a cause too get involved with please consider HUGS. You can find them on Instagram and Facebook.

Hamptons Psychic

Never apologize for trusting your intuition- your brain can play tricks, your heart can blind, but your gut is always right.

 

I got a chance to sit down with Julie Dyer, also known as the Hamptons Psychic yesterday! Say what you will about social media, but I reach out and get reached out to by the coolest, nicest, people. Julie started following me on Instagram and as soon as I saw @hamptonspsychic I thought "oooh, who is that???"  I followed her right back and over the next few weeks got to "feel her vibe" and see what she was all about a little more through her uplifting and always positive posts. So I sent her a DM and asked her if she wanted to come on the podcast.

We hit it off right away. Julie told her story of how she started to realize as a teenager that she was drawn to things from the metaphysical realm and soon began to hear messages and sometimes see things. But as in all the classic Hero's Journey stories, she at first resisted.

She picked things back up in her forties and really decided to embrace this gift she had taken for granted all these years. She studied with Angel experts and mediums and honed her craft. She even teaches classes of her own now, mentoring her students on how to trust their instincts and tune into their intuition. We all have the capability, some more than others, to listen to our intuition and trust that it is telling you the answers we all seek.

I really enjoyed chatting with Julie. If you want a reading, to take her class or have her to a gathering you can reach out to her on Instagram or Twitter  @hamptonspsychic

Until then, work hard, have fun, peace.

The One About Self-Esteem

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. -Dr.Suess.

I got to sit down with my eldest, Beth, today my podcast, You Be You & I'll Be Me. We tried to think of the above quote but for some reason we couldn't come up with it. But it really does embody our conversation about self-esteem and growing up in an age of social media.

Everyone needs to unplug now and then. Leave the phone at home and go out in nature, reconnect to who you really are. Exercise, volunteer, do something for someone else who could use a helping hand. Don't compare yourself to anyone else and know that its ok to be different. In fact, being yourself and not conforming to what anyone else thinks you should be is the most important thing you can do for yourself! Be you, have fun and get it done!

Following your dreams is hard work but you can be anything you want to be if you want it bad enough and are willing to work for it.

Follow Beth's journey through Columbia J School on Instagram at @bethcjs18 or on her you tube channel, https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4su61NOXxWO--rL8kvtOqw